I once met the biggest challenge to parenting I’ve ever faced. When Stefan and Jacques got home with bad grades, they feared I would scold them. Apparently, they saw a child’s parent scolding him for having lacklustre grades.
I was taken aback myself. I was a bit disappointed because our genes were supposed to have above-level intelligence quotients. Instead, I composed myself and asked them.
“Are you interested in what you’re learning?”
To which replies were two headshakes.
Formal education is needed because it affords a person an employment opportunity in a business. But I was looking to see my children learn the things they want, not the things they couldn’t use in the future.
Instead of scolding them, I told them.
“You know, you will need good grades for your future employment. Right now, your focus might be pleasing yourself and your friends first.
“I wouldn’t scold you for bad grades. I know you’re both trying your best. I will not have any control over how you take your education. However, I encourage that you two become better learners. You don’t need to be a better student. All I want is for you to learn things that you’ll need once you get out of school.”
They realised that I will never scold them and that I would just encourage them to do better next time.
Violent resolutions are a big no for me following this little challenge. I am thankful that it happened.
How would you have handled the situation?