Raising two kids isn’t a joke. I have metaphorically broken my back just to get my kids in school with a low-paying job. There are upsides to being a single parent, but if the downsides get to you first, you might fear being one. Here are a few things I learned on the way to becoming a good and successful single mother.
1. Pay Attention To Yourself
I had a eating problem when I first learned that my body carried Jacques right after their father left me. This eating problem worsened following the news. I didn’t eat too much. At most days, I would never get enough sleep. I was so worried about the kind of future I could give them on my own. It is essential to pay attention to yourself. It is truly a disaster to manage one’s self, but it is the best way to manage any situation effectively.
2. Find People Who Could Help You.
A neighbourhood without an old or middle-aged couple is not a normal neighbourhood. I had Aunt Tessa for my own advisor when I bore Jacques to the world. Aunt Tessa told me that taking care of kids is more than just love and work. It means sharing time together whenever possible and advising them on their behaviour. Then, I met Sarah, a new neighbour who was also a single mother raising a kid my Jacques’ age during that time. Being with them helped me because it felt that I wasn’t alone with my predicament and I had people to help me.
3. Don’t Envy Entire Families
At one point, I couldn’t help yearning for help from the father of my children. It was difficult to manage two kids on my own. I often saw couples walking together, their child in a crib bashful with the way things are going. But for me, I was to endure all of it alone. However, I don’t envy them anymore. Upon realisation, handling two kids isn’t too bad because I could decide what to do with them by myself without arguing with anybody else. Crucial home decisions are easier to manage too.